id caption ari tau gem can leo vir lib sco sag cap aqu pis 20090105 Philip Garcia's Weekly Love Horoscope: Monday 5th January 2009 If you're in a love relationship you want only to soar to the heights of ecstasy with your partner. You've always enjoyed romance and springing surprises on your lover such as gifts, treats and spontaneous suggestions to do something new together will keep your relationship alive. If your heart is free there is someone you meet this week who will be making an effort to find out what you care about. Their intention is to win your heart! After some disappointments in romance you have now met someone who doesn't take you for granted. You and your lover are both trying hard to make things work. If this is a new relationship, you have a lot to look forward to. If you're in a long-term union and there has been a big misunderstanding, agreeing to sort it out between you rather than running to lawyers and law courts will seem like the best choice you ever made. Someone's being temperamental and moody and that someone isn't you! If a friend or partner isn't keeping their promises or is acting recklessly, you aren't being critical by pointing this out to them. You feel deeply concerned when loved-ones aren't being themselves and because close relationships are a big part in your life you will want to do all you can to get others to be more reliable and responsible. It might seem as if the person you love most is the total opposite to you and this is no bad thing. You are like ying and yang and it is entirely possible your partner's strengths help combat your weaknesses and vice versa. Within your relationship there will be a lot of compromise as your interests may not be totally compatible. In this, you get to learn from each other every day and at the moment, you just can't picture yourself with anyone else. It shouldn't come as a surprise to you to realise your physical and mental health can be influenced by your relationships. The reason you're feeling down and sluggish is because your lover isn't the person they once was. A close and intimate relationship is causing you tension and the more you feel challenged and uncertain, the worse you feel in yourself. You're keeping too tight a rein on your feelings and eventually they're going to have to come out: the sooner the better. Someone is treating you as if your feelings and opinions don't count and this is causing you a lot of upset and hurt. Whether this is a friendship, business relationship or love-affair, the single overriding factor in any union is your right to be you. No one owns you and no one has a right to control you. Your pitfall is you're being too obliging and supportive and you're putting other people's desires before your own. It is time you changed that now. A loving relationship isn't all about looks and sex; trust, understanding, caring and friendship must also come into the equation. If you feel a close relationship is lacking in some way, it could be you and your partner aren't communicating your needs very well. Don't feel embarrassed about spelling out what you want out of romance, others can't read your mind. You need to bring your feelings out into the open and not feel ashamed of them. Most of the time you get on with a certain special someone but recently you've noticed some tension building. You've got a lot in common but it could be one of you is holding back from being spontaneous so as not to upset the other. You need to have a long talk; discuss why you are dating, why you're still together, go over everything you've been through and what your hopes are. This should help get your relationship back onto a more secure footing. Are some things best left unsaid or will this not cause resentment and anger to build up? You and your mate aren't communicating well these days and all the loving feelings seem to have vanished. You might sense these are testing times for your relationship and you don't want to do or say anything to rock the romantic boat. That feeling of unease will continue until you find a way to express your thoughts. Single? You might set your sights on someone who can't be tamed; their personality fascinates you. A part of your self-esteem comes through your friendships, work and romantic relationships. Regardless of your material success, if you feel you don't meet up to someone's expectations or you can't please them these days, eventually it's going to affect your confidence. Nothing is more important to you than having stable romance and secure future. For this reason you will be doing all you can to keep life amenable and harmonious. The key to a loving and satisfying relationship is trust. If it isn't possible for you to trust your mate, you should ask yourself why you ever entered this relationship in the first place. If there is faithfulness but you're feeling restricted, ask for the space you need to be whom and what you are. You recognise your partner's individual rights and as long as they recognise yours, the joy you get out of this partnership is likely to add splashes of colour to your life. You've reached a point in a relationship when you need to talk. There are a number of issues causing concern but this does not mean you can't reach an amicable understanding. The truth is, there is a slight overlap between what you expect out of this union and what your partner wants. If you're looking for commitment, passion, friendship, laughter and understanding but you feel your partner's not meeting you half-way, the only way you're going to achieve your wish is to talk.