By Analise Pendergast

The old adage that opposites attract does not always hold true, especially in the lesbian community. In fact, some lesbian couples share so many things in common that they practically seem to be mirror images of one another. If you and she sport the same haircut, wear the same sandals, and finish each other’s sentences with regularity, are you at risk of merging into one big inseparable unit? And, is that okay?

Is it a girl thing? Actually, lesbian couples do not own the patent on merger. Long-term couples of any stripe are rumored to begin looking more alike, sounding more alike, and thinking more alike over time. In some cases, it can reflect a serene and symbiotic blending of personalities; in others, the partners may feel pressured to compromise their individuality for the sake of matching up neatly with their so-called